Wednesday, March 27, 2013
PART I.-"FALLING FOR OR FALLING IN AND WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE ?"
Falling in love is probably one of the greatest pleasures in our lives. It's the "falling in love" part that is always exciting. Don't you just love "falling in love." I think it's why most of us get in trouble with love. Because before we know it, we have committed to someone based on those silly little giddy feelings we experience when first we "fall" for someone.
"Falling in love" is totally different from "falling for someone." You can "fall"for someone, without "falling in love" with them. I think it's what's going on most of the time when we mistaken the "falliing for," for, "falling in". And that's why so many relationships, and worst, marriages, fail and continue to fail. How can we tell the difference?
Well, time. Time is most important. You have to give your relationships time to develope and time to figure out what kind of "fall" it will turn out to be.
You can "fall" for someone's personality and for the way they dress. You can "fall" for how popular a person is or how smart they are. You can "fall" for the way they pick up the check at dinner and tip. Or you can "fall" for the way they take charge and make things happen whenever you are together. You can "fall" for the way they walk or talk, and you can "fall" for the way they smile or the way "their eyes twinkle when they laugh. There are so many reasons why you can "fall" for someone. But is that LOVE?
"Falling in Love" with someone is so much more than that . To actually "fall in Love" means having to not only consider, but also witness some characteristics that only "Love" can bring out of someone.
Trustworthiness, respectfullness, honesty, patience, understanding, sincerity, honor, symphathy, empathy, concern, responsibility, accountability, employability, and compatibility are all attributes that should be looked for whenever considering someone as a significant other. Too often we "fall" for the exterior rather than wait to truly find out what the interior is all about. What are they really made of. What are their values in life. Just asking a person is not going to guarantee the truth. People have the tendency to hide a lot of who they really are. But, paying attention and taking your time can tell you all you need to know about a potential partner before you invest too much of yourself into a relationship that could be headed for desaster.
Remember, ask yourself about the new person that you are having those whoeee, gooeey, feelings for. If you are finding yourself wanting to spend more time with that special someone, then don't forget to examine what you really feel and why. In other words, are you "falling for this person," or "falling in love" with this person. And don't forget to examine the very important reasons why you are "falling" for this person. Are your true reasons, (exterior) or what you found about them in the (interior.)
And then determine if you are, "FALLING FOR OR FALLING IN."
"Falling in love" is totally different from "falling for someone." You can "fall"for someone, without "falling in love" with them. I think it's what's going on most of the time when we mistaken the "falliing for," for, "falling in". And that's why so many relationships, and worst, marriages, fail and continue to fail. How can we tell the difference?
Well, time. Time is most important. You have to give your relationships time to develope and time to figure out what kind of "fall" it will turn out to be.
You can "fall" for someone's personality and for the way they dress. You can "fall" for how popular a person is or how smart they are. You can "fall" for the way they pick up the check at dinner and tip. Or you can "fall" for the way they take charge and make things happen whenever you are together. You can "fall" for the way they walk or talk, and you can "fall" for the way they smile or the way "their eyes twinkle when they laugh. There are so many reasons why you can "fall" for someone. But is that LOVE?
"Falling in Love" with someone is so much more than that . To actually "fall in Love" means having to not only consider, but also witness some characteristics that only "Love" can bring out of someone.
Trustworthiness, respectfullness, honesty, patience, understanding, sincerity, honor, symphathy, empathy, concern, responsibility, accountability, employability, and compatibility are all attributes that should be looked for whenever considering someone as a significant other. Too often we "fall" for the exterior rather than wait to truly find out what the interior is all about. What are they really made of. What are their values in life. Just asking a person is not going to guarantee the truth. People have the tendency to hide a lot of who they really are. But, paying attention and taking your time can tell you all you need to know about a potential partner before you invest too much of yourself into a relationship that could be headed for desaster.
Remember, ask yourself about the new person that you are having those whoeee, gooeey, feelings for. If you are finding yourself wanting to spend more time with that special someone, then don't forget to examine what you really feel and why. In other words, are you "falling for this person," or "falling in love" with this person. And don't forget to examine the very important reasons why you are "falling" for this person. Are your true reasons, (exterior) or what you found about them in the (interior.)
And then determine if you are, "FALLING FOR OR FALLING IN."
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